Get to Know Me: Fashion, Styling, & Why It All Matters
Shirt, Brandy Melville / Skirt & Sunnies, Free People
I read a quote the other day from an interview with Sabina Socol for W Magazine. When asked what her best styling advice would be she stated plainly, “Dress to suit your frame and feel good about yourself, and don’t follow all trends blindly.” I immediately saved this and found inspiration for this blog post because I could not agree more with her response. I feel like this quote reflects what I am learning about fashion, styling, and self-confidence at this point in my life, especially since my take on these concepts are always changing and evolving. I would definitely say this is a good thing because if my mind was never open to new ideas when it comes to fashion, I would still look, dress, and act the way I did in the 7th grade- and frankly no one wants that.
If I’m being honest, I find that a heavy influence on my personal style is often been based on what retail brand I work for (i.e., these 2016 photos that are v reminiscent of my Free People days), how others will perceive who I am as a person in regards to what I’m wearing, and what others around me are wearing. Now with the rise of social media influencers, bloggers, and of course the “French It Girl” style on my radar, it seems as if I am always drawing fashion inspiration from outside sources and what other people are “telling” me to wear. While this is not necessarily a bad thing (this post in it of itself is inspired partially by one of those influencers), this quote reminded me that my personal style and take on fashion needs to come from myself too. That’s why it is called my “personal style” after all, right?
Considering the current state of our society, I don't doubt that being told to “dress to suit your frame” might receive some backlash. However, despite all of the notions that we should be allowed to wear whatever the heck we want without society telling us otherwise, I think this tip is an important factor to consider for reasons that may not be completely obvious. Think about it this way: We all face our own insecurities in our own way and at least for me, this is often reflected in the way I dress. On days where I am not feeling too hot, you will probably find me in some version of an oversized sweater coat or something similar (which was 99% of the time this winter). When thinking about styling and visual proportions, this is usually a good thing (!) and puts a whole look together. I mean I even wrote a whole blog post about it. But I guess what I am trying to say is that if I felt confident enough in myself to “dress to suit my frame” I may not have to hide under so many layers after all. I think I can be quick to forget the "...and feel good about yourself" part. Dressing to “feel good” should be about making yourself feel like your best self, rather than feeling like you need to hide who you are. And this goes for all shapes and sizes. Wouldn’t this in turn, hopefully emancipate me from the reinforcement that I give myself over to every time I do dress in a way to “hide” who I am? I’m not really sure, but I do want to find out.
I should be clear that this, at least for me, does not necessarily mean showing more skin and as a result, opting for pieces that aren’t actually me (although if this is your jam, that’s fine too!) Let’s not forget the second half of the quote that says “don’t follow all the trends blindly”. Don't get me wrong, I think it's wonderful to step out on a limb and try new trends that may be a bit out of your comfort zone, (I wish I was more adventurous in this way) but the last thing you want to do is force it. Because again, are you dressing in what makes you feel good? Or are you simply wearing x, y, and z because someone out there in the fashion world decided that, oh I don’t know, transparent shoes were cool. Now I am not saying to not try out new trends, because that would contradict my whole first point in this post. Go for it! But what I am saying, is that it is important to make sure it feels natural to you first and foremost, because that is what is going to make you feel your best. How can you make the trend your own? Is there a way you can incorporate said trend into your already existing wardrobe, or do you need to go out and buy 5 other pieces to make that 1 trend work? Would I pick this out if no one else was wearing it? Am I passionate about what this trend represents and why it exists? Ask yourself these questions the next time you’re tempted to give in to a trend, that may in fact only turn out to be a fad.
Ultimately, I feel as though I am writing this entire post for myself- to remind myself of why I love fashion, why it is important, and the impact it can have on the way one carries oneself. I feel as though I may have made some potentially bold claims, and/or that nothing I said made sense, but I'm going to go with it anyway. My hope for you is that this will inspire you to explore and discover what fashion and style really means to you.
Below, I borrowed the questions from W's article and answered them for myself. Go ahead and answer them too in the comments below! I'd love to get to know you too :)
Three words that describe your style:
Classic, chic (hopefully), feminine
Ankle boots, high-waisted jeans, a knit top, and simple jewelry.
Who or what you look to for style inspiration:
Hepburn, Bardot, Birkin
Best styling tip:
"Dress to suit your frame and feel good about yourself, and don’t follow all the trends blindly." -Sabina Socol AND have FUN!
Favorite piece in your closet right now:
I have this white blouse from Madewell x Sezane and I LOVE it because I think it is one of the most feminine pieces I own. It is all lace with ruffles and resembles your grandmother's curtains, but that's ok.
Best recent discovery:
Glossier's Generation G Lipstick in Jam and Boy Brow!
Favorite place to shop in [Boston]:
I can't say Boston is necessarily the spot for curated boutiques or vintage shopping. I think I have to say Madewell by default because it's where I work and end up shopping the most.
Best cold-weather beauty tip:
Find out here ;)
Most underrated product in your [makeup bag]:
Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer. I use this every day!
Favorite song to get dressed to:
"Still in Love", Third Story
On your Spring reading list:
Wow, I haven't read a book in forever but this sounds kind of refreshing. Any suggestions?
Something you would never wear:
What every girl should own:
A go-to dress that you feel like a 10 in.
Questions via Caroline Grosso, W Magazine